Relationships

Ever wonder why you don't accept your partner's apology? Or why your partner is still upset with you after you apologize? What went wrong?Back in June, I published "Apologizing With Intention: 4 Reasons Your Apology Didn't Work" for Goodtherapy.org, addressing this very issue. In fact, the apology...

My blog should have gone out Friday afternoon. I sat down to right about intimacy Thursday night (with yet another head cold) and stared at a blank computer screen. I just did not care about intimacy. I had nothing to say about it. Which lasted into Friday,...

I truly believe that daily acknowledgments of appreciation can save a relationship. Take a moment to read my article offering you specific steps on how to cultivate gratitude with your partner.At the start of this holiday season, I thank you for your loyal readership, comments, questions and challenges...

I recently wrote about a fight my spouse and I had in an article titled "What My Partner and I Learned From Our Glorious Fight Last Week". Working through our disagreement brought us closer together. In the article, I highlight four important questions couples must ask while in...

I recently attended a virtual talk titled Waking Up Through Relationships by Susan Piver, renowned Buddhist teacher and author. I appreciated how she created and framed these four relationship truths. Do not let their simplicity fool you. Really. I summarize her words of wisdom below:Truth...

John and Kim came into therapy due to financial differences. Partnered for many years, they kept separate bank accounts. John always thought they would join their bank accounts but Kim assumed they would always keep finances separate.Sara and Joe were married for three years and...

I remember my client, Joan, who adamantly said to me, "I am not getting close to you because I don't want to need you". I was struck by her honesty and self-awareness. She knew exactly what to avoid, why she did it and admittedly so....

More common in long term commitments, a spiritual divorce can creep into your relationship quieter than a mouse. It plants it's seeds and before you know it, you are living in an overgrowth of negativity. You co-create your spiritual divorce and it happens long before...

A client, whose partner has distanced themselves significantly from him, said, "I live like she's gone".  He said, "I make all the beds, clean the whole house, get the kids to school, you know, everything that I'd have to do if she wasn't there because...

We all hold certain roles in our relationships that can shift.  I'm not talking about who takes out the trash or who puts the kids to bed.  I'm writing about a deeper relational dynamic. As biologically-programmed social creatures, we seek and crave connection to an...

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