21 Oct My Open Letter to Mr. Trump
Dear Mr. Trump,
As a sex therapist and a mother of 2 young boys, I strive to raise my boys into mature young men who know how to demonstrate respect for women. Thank you for exemplifying through multiple examples exactly how NOT to treat women. Should I ever need something concrete to refer to, well, sadly, you’ve given me ample examples to choose from.sex therapist and a mother of 2 young boys, I strive to raise my boys into mature young men who know how to demonstrate respect for women. Thank you for exemplifying through multiple examples exactly how NOT to treat women. Should I ever need something concrete to refer to, well, sadly, you’ve given me ample examples to choose from.
In particular, your “locker room” tape exhibits the covert ways women have been sexually disrespected by men throughout history. Further, it shows how easily people turn into “sheep”, simply following the herd no matter how poor a direction the herd travels.
Of course, my kids are too young to be exposed to your vile words and behavior now. I have no doubt they will encounter “locker room” talk such as yours as they grow up. After all, you are not the only misogynist in our country. Others like you are now parents just like me.
The difference between us is that I am educating my son’s to grow into mature, respectful men who recognize a woman’s worth, value and most importantly, her rights. So, as their mom, I need to prepare myself for how you and others like you influence my son’s future peers.
I am not afraid to discuss this verbally violent “locker room” tape if I need to. I am not afraid of the words that you used, although I do fear the intention and abuse in how you used them.
Your companion, Billy Bush, offers a great example of exactly how NOT TO ACT when a bully is abusing his power. In case it’s not clear, Mr. Trump, you are the bully. You abuse your power and Billy Bush was just part of your entourage. He’s the kid on the playground who doesn’t stand up for the girl or boy getting picked on but rather, joins the attack. His compliance renders him as guilty as you.
You know, Mr. Trump, it just dawned on me. My boys have read a book called Your Body Belongs to You. You can easily pick it up at any book store. It teaches about healthy sexual boundaries, you know, not touching other people’s “private parts” without their consent.
Speaking of consent, I have a great video for you too. Just click this link, (Mr. Trump, just so you know, the first minute or so does include foul language so you may want earphones). This is my favorite video on consent. This video can almost seem humorous but we all know that consent is a pretty serious matter.
Well, you clearly think it’s a funny matter but hopefully, after this video you will better understand why “locker room talk” is so dangerous and how it influences the very behaviors this video tells us NOT to do.
I must go attend to my clients now. Your “locker room talk” has triggered some of my clients with a history of sexual assault. They have had to spend some sessions focused on recovering from your words. In these cases, you have created what I call, “trickle-down-violence”.
So while I go help them find their courage, self-respect and dignity, I hope that you can find a way to reclaim yours.
By the way, have you ever considered speaking to a therapist? Consider doing so, but, please, don’t call me. I’m booked.
Proud Mom, Wife, Woman, Sex Therapist, Voter