Intimacy

Do you fear intimate love? You're not the only one. We all want deep connection. Sometimes we even crave it.  Yet, we find ways to block or ignore intimate moments.Want some examples? Staying single. Spending more time on tech than with our partners. Sustaining chronic conflict. Living in a...

Elysabeth Williamson, author and yoga teacher, writes,  "Touch is as vital to our survival as air, food and water".  Touch allows us to communicate and connect, to listen and express, to give and receive.  A lack of touch can have a strong impact on your well-being.  Many couples who dislike...

Goodtherapy.org recently published my article, Is Your Relationship Close, Intimate, Both or Neither? Knowing the difference between closeness and intimacy can guide your relationship toward deeper connection. Start by asking yourself these five questions.   ...

My blog should have gone out Friday afternoon. I sat down to right about intimacy Thursday night (with yet another head cold) and stared at a blank computer screen. I just did not care about intimacy. I had nothing to say about it. Which lasted into Friday,...

I just got off the phone with a new client, a heterosexual newlywed couple, married for 1 year. He needs more emotional intimacy in order to feel sexual towards her. She wants greater physical intimacy so she can connect emotionally with him. Neither one wants...

Intimacy is an experience. You can’t buy, own or touch intimacy. Most partners claim they want an intimate relationship but struggle to define or understand intimacy.  Below I debunk 6 myths about intimacy that very regularly show up in my conversations with couples. Myth #1: Intimacy Is...

 What is it about eye contact that can make you want to crawl out of your skin? How does your own eye contact or eye avoidance inform you? In my published article To See or Not To See: What Are Your Partner's Eyes Saying?, I share...

As a scholar of intimacy, I continuously attempt to refine my own understanding of this abstract concept and how it shows up through the multiple layers of our relationships. I witness couples avoid it, dance around it, dip their toe into it, beg for it,...

Some of you have responded to the 28-Day Intimacy Challenge. Here’s what you had to say:Cara said, “At first, the challenge was fun and easy but it felt harder as it progressed. I found myself a bit anxious when the emails arrived”. Playful/Fearful/VulnerableSteve said, “I...

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