24 Jan My Intimacy Revelation Reveals Intimacy Avoidance
My blog should have gone out Friday afternoon. I sat down to right about intimacy Thursday night (with yet another head cold) and stared at a blank computer screen. I just did not care about intimacy. I had nothing to say about it. Which lasted into Friday, then Saturday and today.
To be honest, it scared me. I thought, “Am I losing interest in the heart and soul of my business? Why do I not care about intimacy? What does this mean for me?”
Then, today, I had my A-HA moment: that when life feels hard, intimacy is the first to take a back seat. Folks, this even happens to me as a blogger and an intimacy expert. My experience at the computer Thursday night mimics what my clients tell me everyday, “My life is too busy for intimacy”.
So let me review my busy week… this weekend, we had a snow blizzard resulting in 20″, I’ve had a head cold for a week (I’ve been sick most of this winter), my children had fevers this week, I had parent-teacher conferences, my mother had an insulin crisis, I saw clients at the office all while my spouse and I continue to mourn the loss of my brother-in-law. Is it any wonder that intimacy has not been in the forefront of my mind?
But it needs to be. These hard weeks will always show up in life. Like you, I need to care about intimacy. I need to connect, whether it’s with my spouse or with you through my blog.
What scared me most when I sat at the blank screen, searching for an intimacy topic to passionately write about was that, in that moment, I did not care about intimacy. Intimacy fuels my passion for life, for love and for work. The lack of caring scared me fiercely.
I invite you to go within. Ask yourself:
- How much do I care about intimacy in my relationship?
- Do I miss intimacy?
- How hard am I willing to work to create it or get it back?
- What does intimacy mean to me?
So although I sit here typing with that same head cold, I feel ignited by intimacy again. Intimate connection is almost sacred. While we can have intimate moments within many relationships, our level of intimacy with our beloved partners ranks above all others.
Head cold and all, I’m thrilled to have reconnected with you. I am going to take that energy further and consciously strengthen my connection to my beloved.
Not sure where to start? In the next few weeks, I will roll out a comprehensive e-course that provides the tools you need to create and sustain emotional, physical and sexual intimacy.
I cannot wait to share this with you and support you on your journey toward greater intimacy!