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2023 Top Therapy Topics
What We Talked About in Therapy As we conclude 2023, I’ve been reflecting on the recurring themes that presented in the therapy room this year. I know that many of my readers may also have some of these struggles. Know that you are not alone and it’s possible to feel...
How Society Shapes Your Sex Life
Society and Your Sex Life Society and it’s social norms strongly shape your sex life. As a child and adolescent, you absorbed messages from your family, friends, school system, neighbors, community, place of worship, politics, movies, books, magazines, social media...
5 Reasons Women Do Not Want Sex
Society and Your Sex Life Society and it’s social norms strongly shape your sex life. As a child and adolescent, you absorbed messages from your family, friends, school system, neighbors, community, place of worship, politics, movies, books, magazines, social media...
What Happens in Sex Therapy?
Feeling ambivalent about sex therapy? When a couple comes in for sex therapy, I can feel their combined energy of eagerness and hesitation. On the one hand, you've finally decided to get help for a sexual concern. You did your research to find a qualified therapist,...
Why Couples Can’t Communicate
We Can't Communicate No matter what issue couples present in therapy, 97% of them will cite communication as a core problem in their relationship. In a recent post, I shared that the #1 predictor of divorce is a lack of love. When the “in love” phase of your new...
What to do if You and Your Partner Have Different Sex Drives
Different Sex Drives Have you ever said any of the following? 🗣 I have no desire My partner has a low sex drive My partner’s drive is much higher than mine I never want to have sex Unfortunately, today's media pigeonholes the partner with the "lower" sex drive as...
Are You at Risk of a Spiritual Divorce?
The Spiritual Divorce Unfortunately, many couples experience divorce before they actually formally divorce. Divorce is often the result of a silent separation that happens over many years. It creeps in slowly and quietly. No specific trauma required. In fact, it...
What to do if You’re Falling Out of Love with Your Partner
Have you ever worried about falling “out of love”? Partners will tell us, “I’m just not ‘in love’ anymore”. In love. Out of love. Do these phrases simplify our complex human experience? Do they influence our perspective of love to be all or nothing? You either feel...
How Mindfulness Affects Your Neurosystem and Relationships
Relationships, Your Neurosystem and Mindfulness I’ve always said relationships are your greatest vehicle for personal growth and development. They will challenge you, excite you, and sadden you. They can make you feel high and free or stuck and afraid. They can...
Healthy Love Starts with You: How to Have a Healthy Relationship
Healthy relationships and healthy love ultimately start with a healthy you. Initially, it’s fun to play house with your partner, maybe get married, and do all of that new relationship stuff. But once life starts to throw you curveballs, how do you respond? Unpleasant...
Responsible Loving: How to Really Share, Listen and Connect
A Communication Pattern That Doesn’t Work You’d be amazed at how much your partner might say to you that you don’t actually hear. You may think you hear it. You might even place bets on how well you hear them. But if I gave you a pop quiz and asked you to repeat what...
How to Address Problems in Your Marriage
Steps to Address Problems in Your Marriage Does your stomach drop when your partner says, “We need to talk”? Ugh, the worst, right? It isn’t easy to sit in “the talk”, whether you’re the partner expressing dissatisfaction or the partner receiving the feedback. A...
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